Jean Descole (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
scientificflair) wrote2012-09-14 09:05 pm
scientificflair) wrote2012-09-14 09:05 pm
006. Anonymous Text
[It's quite frankly surprising how many questions and things regarding relationships tend to come out once there's no accountability attached; Descole's been watching this go down for the last two days, and kind of hating himself for the fact that he isn't immune to it.
He hates text, normally; he doesn't like the lack of tone involved, and he doesn't like being unable to read faces or gestures, either. However, in the spirit of anonymity...]
Since no one can tell who we are over this thing for the time being anyway, I suppose I'll bite. Forgive me for using this as a space for venting my own personal issues, but we all seem to like discussing feelings here, anyway.
[NOT. THAT. HE'S BITTER OR FEELING DUMB ABOUT THIS OR ANYTHING.]
How does one tell the difference between someone being interested, in the romantic sense, and someone being interested in you platonically?
And just to head a few sarcastic individuals off - yes, I know that I sound like I've lived under a rock since puberty hit. There's a reason this is being done now.
He hates text, normally; he doesn't like the lack of tone involved, and he doesn't like being unable to read faces or gestures, either. However, in the spirit of anonymity...]
Since no one can tell who we are over this thing for the time being anyway, I suppose I'll bite. Forgive me for using this as a space for venting my own personal issues, but we all seem to like discussing feelings here, anyway.
[NOT. THAT. HE'S BITTER OR FEELING DUMB ABOUT THIS OR ANYTHING.]
How does one tell the difference between someone being interested, in the romantic sense, and someone being interested in you platonically?
And just to head a few sarcastic individuals off - yes, I know that I sound like I've lived under a rock since puberty hit. There's a reason this is being done now.
[sure yeah. also filtered because ondy is getting specific and he is kind to your privacy]
[come on people can't be that b...okay maybe they are, if they're all as bad as that crass man talking about sex
what is johto even]
The decision to pay could be an indirect form of gift-giving. It could also be a way of repaying a perceived debt, if she is the kind to feel that the "coming to you for advice" that you mentioned is an imposition. Or, it could be her nature or her mood at the time.
But you mentioned having had reason to dislike her. Is the reciprocate true? That would affect the entire dynamic.
[It's at about this point that he slaps a filter on the thing, goes down a few lines, and writes as an addition:]
I apologize for being intrusive. If you would like me to leave this at a generality, I can do that:
There are no certainties in relationships, especially of the romantic kind and especially when nothing has been straightforwardly stated. There are many ways of showing interest, many forms of romantic attachments that may be sought...from the outside, it's complicated, and from within the matter it can seem all a huge mess.
[no mincing words here.
for once]What it comes down to are two deceptively simple questions. First of all, if she has romantic interest in you, does she wish to pursue that interest? And second, if she does, do you wish to reciprocate it?
[this is why he likes you.]
However, suffice it to say, our interactions have changed quite a bit over the time we've spent here.
To answer those last two questions, I have no idea regarding the first, as I can't be sure she would say anything, especially considering our history. I suppose my answer to the second would make itself plain depending on how the first resolves itself.
[what for basic decency?? and Responsibility but still]
Then I suppose this may be repeating what you already feel, but I would not rush anything. If she is interested in you and isn't outright indicating so, she may have her reasons for wanting to hold back, especially with a past such as the two of you share. You yourself have your understanding of the situation confused enough by that very past. Take time to work it through.
[...the rest of this post speaks for itself tbh]
[LIKE...POSTING HERE SOMEHOW ISN'T STUPID...]
Either way, I certainly don't intend to rush into it, no. I've never been the sort to do that anyway.
[...unless he's mad, then all bets are off.]
[y o u n g s t e r s. . .]
[.....
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Strange responses aside.
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[The people that reply to him aren't as, uh, out there...]
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Either I'm cursed or I just manage to inadvertently "ask for it" every time I open my figurative mouth.
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All things come and go. Perhaps this is just precedent to a stroke of good luck.
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It's not a bad thing, just unusual.
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[....actually it is, he's just trying to lighten the mood]
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[The longest pause, then a second message.]
I appreciate this, by the way.
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You're more than welcome. After the Pokemon, it's this being able to meet new people so easily that I love most about Johto. I'm glad I was able to be of help.
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While I realize this is violating the spirit of the entire exercise, might I have a name through which I can contact you later?
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A pleasure.
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